Strength was measured by how much discomfort I could endure emotionally and mentally. The more I could endure, the stronger I was viewed…until I was seen as indestructible. I did not begin to refute the “strong black woman” label until I was in my late twenties. To me being viewed as indestructible felt like a mark of success.
I love this thought on what grief is by the internet's boyfriend, Keanu Reeves. Probably the most accurate definition I've ever read on grief. It never truly leaves, it changes form and you learn to cope better. Sending hugs to anyone currently grieving the loss of a loved one, whether it's been 2 weeks or 2 years.
My sister got so many cute shots of me fake-eating ice cream 🍦 that I MUST use them all. So here we go, adding some depth to a picture that does not have much to do with the content of this post. A couple of years ago, you would have had to pay me good… Continue reading Wonderfully Made
We've all heard the saying 'build the kind of life that you don't need a holiday from.' There is an aspect of truth to it, however just because I love my job, it doesn't mean I don't want another holiday...or two! I am 4 days into what seems to be the longest week ever already… Continue reading You Grow Girl!
Yesterday, I cried.I cried because I hurt. I cried because I was hurt.I cried because hurt has no place to goexcept deeper into the pain that caused it in the first place,and when it gets there, the hurt wakes you up.I cried because it was too late.I cried because it was time.I cried because my… Continue reading It’s All Good
As I took the picture for this post, a few thoughts went through my mind: 1. I hope I don’t drop my book in the water. The cover kinda looks waterproof though 😂 should be fine. 2. I’ve already got a bath bomb in the water, can’t drop this one in! Plus it’s ‘Golden Wonder’… Continue reading (Bathtime) Friends With Benefits
One of my dear friends Eunice, sent me the link to the song ‘So Will I,’ by Hillsong worship. I had seen this on social media, a lot of my friends go to Hillsong so the title was not a surprise to me. I was standing in front of my workplace, waiting for the video… Continue reading So Will I
My sister passed away on the 30th of October. It is a date that I won’t soon forget. The painful part of this grieving process is far from over. In fact, I am starting to believe that grieving never truly ends, you just learn to push back thoughts of your loved one and for a… Continue reading Wilt, fall, root, rise, bloom
It’s been 16 days since my sister passed away. We’ve received flowers, messages from people we hadn’t spoken to in years, all relaying their condolences. Each person saying how sorry they are and that if we need anything, they're there. I've been mulling over that phrase for a while now. What exactly is there that… Continue reading Grief. It comes in shades of black
This morning (and every morning for the past two months,) I have made it a daily habit to listen to podcasts that start my day off with either laughter, (Russell Brand on Radio X) or aligns my focus so that I can get the maximum benefit from tasks that I get to complete. I’ll be… Continue reading Integrity: doing what you say you’ll do