There’s a saying that goes “if you want to go further, go together…” hang on while I get the correct quote from google…
If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.
I find that this quote is applicable in all areas of life; whether in fitness, your professional life or your personal life. In general, I am very much okay with being an island. I don’t like the thought of having to inconvenience anyone because of something I can’t solve or do. Self sufficiency is something that I used to strive for; to the point where I would be physically and emotionally exhausted from trying to do everything on my own. In those moments of complete exhaustion, ego and pride worn out, only then as a last resort would I seek help or advice.
Praise be to God for real that as I get older, He is adding wisdom to this vessel and I have finally gotten to a stage in my life where I make a conscious effort in reminding myself that it’s okay to need people. It’s okay to not be a self-sufficient island. It’s okay to be the island that sometimes needs to get more supplies from a neighboring island, just to make it through the month. It’s okay to get by with a little help from your friends. The problem with wanting to go it alone all the time is that you miss out on having access to the knowledge present in other people about how they’ve made it, and sometimes even how they’ve navigated situations where they were in the same place that you’re in right now.
The biggest thing that keeps us from seeking help or advice from others, is shame. It’s the culture we live in; we worry about what people would say, whether we’d still be accepted; seen as less; seen as weak. To worry about all of these things is human nature but it’s possible to change that! A mantra that I repeat to myself is “screw what people think.” What matters is whether you’re being true to yourself. What matters is whether you’re being true to the person God wants you to be. It’s what I think of more and more each day; am I the Aurélie that Jesus wants me to be? Am I being true to that image that He has of me?
I don’t always get it right, but the more I meditate on doing my utmost for His highest, the more I enjoy the journey of life. The more He awakens my spirit to knowing when I should be asking for help, and when He would rather for me to walk that road with Him. The interesting part of all this is that even when physically you’re walking through a difficult period alone; you never really are alone.
We are so wired for connection that in those moments of what feels like separation from everyone else, if we would allow for Christ’s Nutella like sweet tenderness to sweep over our hearts, we will realize that we never walk alone. We will realize that for every season in our lives, we are never forgotten or alone.